PreviousYou

First things first girl,

Recognize who is with you now

Second thing, can't blame me for how

You were treated before I came

See I'm not Steven, Anthony even

Leroy or Ivan, Damn girl I've been

Right there for you since day one

So where is all this coming from

See now

I'm not to blame for the pain that was caused by previous cats

Who had your heart before me

I'm not to blame for the pain that was caused by previous cats

You gotta see me for me...

Musiq Soulchild - Previouscats

How many of you are still holding on to past hurts, failures, misses opportunities and broken relationships? With a show of hands, who want to get back to your happy place? It is actually easy to do but difficult to get started. How Sway? 🤔 First you got to do is to forgive yourself. Hold on Tristan, Shawn cheated on me. Denise played me for all my money and time. Jason was picked over me because of who he one and not for the work he does. I understand that but you got to forgive yourself for your role in this. And no this is not one of those of pointing the finger at yourself posts. Sometimes we forget how much power we have by simily forgiving ourselves and moving on. Forgiving yourself doesn't mean you was wrong but letting go of the feeling that you could have done better when you gave you all. When you been eating right but still isn't losing weight on the scale. When you have been faithful and dedicated to someone and they betray your trust. When you put in alot of work for a position where you was looked over. With everytime you failed at something try to find the silver lining because that failure could be a blessing in disguise. You might did not lose weight on the scale but you lost inches on your body. You might got cheated on but this finally forced you to leave a toxic situation to love yourself again. You might have gotten looked over this time because this position wasn't for you. What is for is bigger than that position. Like I said stated earlier, forgiving yourself is easy and difficult at the same time. Let's use me for example. I am still working on it. I am working on seeing the good in bad situations by forgiving myself for the things I control. I had to forgive myself for getting to 517 lbs and look at the work that I have done to get down to 375 lbs in less than a year. I had to forgive myself for loving someone that didn't love me back and was toxic. I forgave myself for my actions during the relationship and learned more about myself and what I need in my next relationship. Not getting the position I wanted only made me realize that God has a calling for me and I have been putting it off for a while now but this is perfect time to listen to Him. #HardHeadedAquarius 🙃 I said all of this just so that you  can realize that you are more than the previous you. Try everyday to be better than yesterday. So what you missed up today. Keep pushing and working on yourself...

Food for Thought

1. No one is perfect so don't try to be perfect. Be 💯 you.
2. God will test you at times and when He do just stand strong because He never fail on you.
3. Losing weight isn't just about the pounds loss during the journey. The mental, emotional and spiritual weight needs to loss also.
4. Set small goals that will lead to your larger goal. One day at a time.
5.  Lastly, enjoy breathing before you take your last breath. No matter how life is treating you remember if you are still breathing you can change and enjoy life.
   

FPV

I'm starting with the man in the mirror

I'm asking him to change his ways

And no message could have been any clearer

If you want to make the world a better place...

Michael Jackson - Man in the Mirror

In life we view ourselves in first person view FPV. We walk around viewing life as though we are in a Call of Duty game. We can view things infront of us, side to side, up /down but yet we still have to turn around to see what is behind us. FPV can be very good especially when focusing on goals however sometimes FPV doesn't give you the full story. 

For example, during my weight loss journey I have just been focusing on my goals but in my mind I still look the same. Even though my clothes were getting bigger and my energy was increasing I still felt and viewed myself as I did when I first started. I still saw me at 517 lbs even with the progress I have made. So one day at my weight loss session, I told my weight loss coach I felt like I am same size. The look on her face was priceless. She asked, Tristan have you looked at yourself in the mirror? I stated I have but I still see the 517 lbs version of me. So my weight loss coach told me get up and stand by the door. She took my phone and snapped two photos of me. And  then she sent the two photos I took when I started the journey to my phone. She stated do you see the difference. And I must say there was a significant change. I had an eureka moment after comparing those photos. Sometimes the mirror will need to stand in front of is the one in our minds. We must change the reflection of how we see ourselves mentally. Once this happens true healing begins...

Just remember...

1. Viewing life in FPV can sometimes blind you from whole picture that need to be viewed.
2. Change the reflection you see yourself in your mental mirror.
3. Life is too short but that doesn't mean you always have to drive fast...
4. Always celebrate your progress no matter how big or small.
5. It is ok for you to have a ME Day to get yourself together mentally, emotionally and spiritually.